Thoughts on love

To love someone is to acknowledge the goodness of who they are. Through loving a person we awaken their awareness of their own innate goodness. It is as though they cannot know how worthy they are until they look into the mirror of our love and see themselves.

It is an enlightening moment when we realise that if we truly love someone then we seek to allow them to do the things that are best for them and allow them to grow spiritually. A lot of the time we often hear things such as “I love you and I want to be with you”, where love gets confused with neediness. When we mix up the feelings of wanting to be with someone with love, that kind of love is a selfish love because it does not seek to give to the other but only looks to fill a need within ourselves. Much as we think are giving, to enhance the other, we are looking to them to give to us. That kind of love can be suffocating to the other person. When the other person feels that your presence is more because you get something out of the togetherness, and wants a bit of space, your need to be together, to “love” in your mind, can actually be misguided.

Let that be your thought for today. Instead of seeking to receive, seek to give in a way that is truly giving to the recipient, in a way that is not selfish, nor controlling, nor suffocating – that is love.